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It's Illegal!
Today Scruffy and I were driving out of the local CVS parking lot (I had to buy Draino to unclog the kitchen sink - a monthly occurrence in a 65 year old apartment building), when a man pulling into the parking lot in a large white van rolled down his window and screamed at me, "It's Illegal!"
My first thought was, "What is illegal? You, Mr. Nosy, driving a large white vintage van that is rusted & bleching black smog?"... if it isn't illegal, it should be.
What he meant was that Scruffy was sitting in my lap. Both of my hands where on the steering wheel, my mobile phone was in my purse, and Scruffy was not obscuring my vision.
But, and a big but, is that a Californian state legislator is attempting to pass a bill through the State Assembly and Senate to make it illegal for small dogs to sit on their owner's laps while driving. I don't know if it has passed, but with all California driving laws, if it has already passed it will mostly likely go in effect on January 1st or July 1st of the next year with much fan faire and public education.
I have heard of the bill being up for vote, but I have not read that it passed (I read the LA times every day) nor have I seen public notice as to the date it will be in effect if at all. So, I am not worried.
I am not a person who likes to borrow trouble before it happens. Thus, I am not going to worry about a law that may or may not have passed both houses and been signed by the Governator. A law that if it did get passed has not been activated and publicized yet. If...
Scruffy likes to sit in my lap while I drive, most of the time he lies on my lap and naps. Sometimes if we are driving slow and the window is cracked he likes to put his nose out the window. I don't let Belle sit on my lap while I drive, as she is too tall and obscures my vision. I don't let Magnus sit on my lap the few times he has been in my car, as he is too young and bouncy and does not respect the fact that I need both hands/arms need to be on the wheel. Scruffy is well-behaved, most of the time, and does not cause trouble.
But you know about those small lap dogs... nothing but trouble, which is why, I surmise, the Nosy Legislator from Fresno is trying to pass a law to ban Scruffy from sitting on my lap.
More importantly to the point I want to make, all of us have broken the law or a law of some sort in the last week or two, be it not stopping for a full 5 seconds at the stop sign or driving through that yellow light as it was turning to red or not using a hands-free while talking on your mobile and driving (I saw you) or you took office supplies home with you or you used your office computer or phone for personal use ... or ... or ...
Life is complex. Each of us are capable of making a good or bad decision in the moment. Sometimes we make good ones and sometimes we make bad ones, hopefully for the whole of society we make more good decisions than bad ones. At some point, it is our better moral / ethical selves that stop our more permissive selves from breaking the law or tripping over into the Bad Side. At some point in our lives, we each had to learn how to make sound decisions more often than not. Each of those decisions inched us closer to adulthood.
This week, 100 U.S. College Presidents have called for discussion about college binge drinking and making our laws about when does adulthood start be consistent. When I was young, the drinking age was 18, so was the age to vote, marry, go to war, buy a gun & cigarette, as well as land. By the time I reached my teen years, the folks at MADD and the interstate highway funds had forced most states to raise their drinking age to 21. When my mom was young the drinking age was 18, but the age to vote was 21.
Now you are a rare American bird, if you can sit here reading this and tell me that you never bought a cigarette before 18 or drank an alcoholic drink before 21. Ever. If you are non-American, then you probably live in a country where the age for turning an adult is 18 or where there is not legal age prohibition for alcohol. And then you think we are silly. Which we are.
We Americans are silly because we set ourselves up to fail with our legislation. We also have deprived our young people of the ability and personal pride to act responsibly because we don't give them a clear defined line between childhood and adulthood.
I say that we give each and every American young person one single age in which they transition from childhood to adulthood. With that one coming of age is a coming of responsibility and a pride in achieving adulthood. Whether we choose 16, or 18, or 21, or 25 or 35, it doesn't matter but let's be consistent.
It is ridiculous that we are asking folks for whom it is illegal to drink to go out to war and kill in the name of country. Either our soldiers can have a beverage or two legally when on leave at home or they should stay home altogether.
If you are one of the folks who is insistent that young people should not drink until they are 21 or later, than I say that they should not be able to drive, vote, go to war, buy a gun, buy a cigarette, get married, go to college, leave home, etc. until that same age.
Can we please stop asking folks to break the law? Can we empower our young people to make good decisions that lead to a strong adulthood?

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