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October 30, 2005
already i'm sleeping on the couch...
...but it's not what you think. thank God there is a couch; T.T. has a raging fever and is currently flopping around the bed in semi-sweaty delirium. i've medicated him, done the cool-washcloth-on-forehead thing, given him the requisite chicken soup, but his body just wants to slug it out. i guess this is the "in-sickness-or-in-health" part of the deal.
now that we're back home in sunny California, i've had a little bit of time to download all my photos, go grocery shopping, clean the oven, sort through the bills, and make small choking noises when seeing the amount of e-mail i'm going to need to read & return. of course i will actually want to tackle e-mail as we are soon to be crushed in the avalanche that is the gazillion thank-you notes we will need to start writing. i'm not complaining; if there is one thing this wedding has taught us, it's that we have very generous friends.
and amongst said downloaded photos was this one, taken in the lovely baroque city of Würzburg, birthplace of T.T. it's one of the many turrets of the centuries-old Fortress Marienberg. the ivy you see is thick and strong, and spills over the top of the wall and continues on the other side. it's hard to tell where the wall begins and the ivy ends.
it made me think: this is a metaphor i've needed to get a wee fingerhold on the enormous, puzzling cliff face of Making Sense of What This Marriage Thing Means. out of the murky uncertainty of Now What?, i have a picture emerging of something i can expect and hope for us as we go forward.
as much as we think we love each other now, we're not so naive that we know it's no more than just a seed, a tiny plant beginning at the bottom of the wall that is God and our community. and i'm guessing that if we are careful to nurture that love, take some chances, share our home, and laugh a lot, then perhaps it will grow upwards and outwards, spreading and becoming larger and stronger than we ever imagined, maybe without us even noticing.
any feedback from you taller, bigger ivy plants is welcome...
Posted by hadashi at October 30, 2005 9:31 PM
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dang it. i was just thinking 5 minutes ago that maybe i'd call you guys to propose a lunch in frankfurt this week. i guess i'm going to have to eat my munich sausages by myself...
Posted by: zippy the troll at October 31, 2005 8:52 AM
awesome analogy! :-) Hope T.T. gets well very soon!
Posted by: Julie at October 31, 2005 12:39 PM
I'm a huge fan of ivy, just so you know.
Posted by: Pauly D at November 1, 2005 6:58 PM
glad the ivy is getting positive votes. however, i am officially tired of sleeping on the couch.
Posted by: hadashi at November 4, 2005 10:43 PM
oh wise analogy maker, why ask us "older" vines for input when your grasp of these kinds of these puts you light years ahead of us anyhow?! indeed, it is this same love that will hold you over patiently through this period of floundering all night half awake on the couch...when it's done, TT will be well, your love will be a little stronger (his will at least) and the couch will be relegated to its former and proper movie-viewing purpose.
Posted by: ukognet at November 8, 2005 6:38 PM
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